LOVE was started
in the 1970's by Phyllis
York. The Yorks were family therapists who worked in one of the most
famous drug and alcohol rehabs of its time, training counselors,
working with clients and their families, and conducting a private
practice in addition to being State Drug and Alcohol Trainers for
While they were gaining acclaim as experts in their
were suffering the same kinds of problems we all have here - their kids
were out of control. They tried everything - counseling, therapy for
the kids, themselves, the family, private school, judo lessons, riding
lessons, getting tougher, more permissive, more understanding, etc.
Nothing worked, and things got worse until their
arrested for armed robbery. Then the Yorks asked other adults to
intervene for them. They took a STAND that said, "We will not tolerate
a criminal in our house."
Their supportive adults went to the prison, decided when
clothing, cigarette money, etc. They provided bail money when it was
appropriate, let her know what she had to do to come home - go through
a drug treatment program and get a job, and - most importantly - they
provided ONGOING SUPPORT for her to help her make the necessary
changes. They also kept the parents informed of progress, letting them
know that their daughter was okay.
Finally their plan worked, and their daughter began to
change, to be
successful at new, acceptable behaviours. The Yorks started a support
group for parents of their clients at the rehab, wrote a manual for
other parents to form self-help groups, TOUGHLOVE was
recommended by Ann Landers and 20,000 letters came to the Yorks' little
office in Pennsylvania!
Since then, the Yorks have been on most major magazines
and newspapers and there was a TOUGHLOVE
movie on ABC-TV. Groups are all over the United States and Canada and
many foreign countries, concluding New Zealand, South Africa, Germany,
Korea and Brazil.
TOUGHLOVE programs are available for Parents, for
Teachers, for Professionals and the Yorks are always working on new
manuals, books and professional materials. They do personal appearances
and trainings and they have trained TOUGHLOVE Representatives
to do the work of TOUGHLOVE out in the community.